I’m worried about a friend

Feeling worried or no good? We will take the time to listen. No shame, no judgement, safe place to yarn. We’re here for you. 

How to help a friend

Every one of us has the ability to be a support to another person. If you see signs that someone you know is struggling, you can be a great support to them by asking if they are OK and being willing to listen and get them to help if needed. Don’t ever underestimate the power you have to connect with another person and help them find hope and stay safe.

01. When should I check-in?

If someone you know is struggling to cope or having a difficult time, you might feel unsure of what to say or how to help. While checking in and asking if they are okay might seem like a difficult conversation to have, it could be a life-saving one. Letting someone know you care and have noticed a change in them is a great place to start. Approaching with an “I” statement can be helpful such as “I have noticed you seem really down at the moment”.

02. Send them a text

It may be easier for someone to reply to a text than having to answer a phone call or answering the door. However others may prefer a hug and a chat over a cuppa so it’s always a good idea to ask. Don’t create an elephant in the room, ask how someone is if they have been unwell but you can also discuss other aspects of life. 

03. Ask

If you think someone might be suicidal, ask them directly “Are you thinking about suicide”? Don’t be afraid to do this, it shows you care and will actually decrease their risk because it shows someone is willing to talk about it. Make sure you ask directly and unambiguously.

04. Listen and stay

If they say ‘yes’, they are suicidal, listen to them and allow them to express how they are feeling. Don’t leave them alone. Stay with them or get someone else reliable to stay with them.





05. Make a safety plan

Everyone is different and require different things to feel supported. Feel free to make suggestions of ways to help, but not too many as it may be overwhelming. 

06. Get help

Get them appropriate help. Call a crisis line like 13 YARN on 13 92 76 or 000 if life is in danger. If you need support, there is also Brother to brother 24-hour crisis line on 1800 435 799. 

If you don’t feel like you can call any of the above services, you can also talk to someone you trust, contact your GP, a counsellor, psychologist or psychiatrist or visit a hospital emergency department. 

For 24-hour telephone crisis support, call Lifeline on 13 11 14

If life is in danger, call 000

Lifeline South Coast would like to acknowledge the lives that have been lost to suicide. We are committed to supporting those with a lived experience of suicide and aim to reduce the stigma around seeking help for poor mental health and suicidal crisis.